AP OKs ‘husband,’ ‘wife’ for same-sex couples
husband, wife Regardless of sexual orientation, husband or wife is acceptable in all references to individuals in any legally recognized marriage. Spouse or partner may be used if requested.
The news co-op kicked a hornets nest last month when it issued a style memo saying "partner" was the right way to refer to members of married same-sex couples.
"The AP has never had a Stylebook entry on the question of the usage of husband and wife," said AP Senior Managing Editor for U.S. News Mike Oreskes in a release sent to Poynter. "All the previous conversation was in the absence of such a formal entry. This lays down clear and simple usage. After reviewing existing practice, we are formalizing 'husband, wife' as an entry."
"[T]hose who get married have already decided about terminology," Nathaniel Frank wrote in a piece published in the Los Angeles Times Thursday. "AP's job is to reflect this reality without hesitation. Anything else is editorializing."
John Aravosis reported last week that AP reporter David Crary had said he wouldn't abide by the previous style guidance: "I will continue to depict them on equal terms, linguistically and otherwise, with heterosexual married couples, with no hesitation about using husband and wife in the cases where that’s the appropriate term."